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Adoption, and especially special need's adoption, is a subject I have much to say about and have rambled about frequently.  Not only are we still surprised by the amount of questions we get regarding our adoptions, but we welcome the curiosity.  Adoption has been a spiritual journey that has changed us forever.  We are the lucky ones.  First and foremost, I do not advocate that all families adopt.  Aside from being one of the biggest blessings and joys we've had, adoption is also one of the most difficult and painful paths we've ever walked.  Many have said it before me... international adoption ain't for sissies!  The Lord mandates that everyone should help provide for orphans, but certainly adoption is only one of many ways to do this. 

But for those who are curious...

---here is some of the stuff I wish I knew when we were just starting our adoption journey.  If I could only share one post with folks considering adoption, this would be the one I'd hope they'd read.

----this is another beginning, another adoption starting to unfold.  And here is the announcement of our newest addition, Mimi, who came home in March of 2012.  

----this is a post regarding The Starfish Flinger and daring to adopt.

----this and this are the orphanages our children lived in before they came to our family.  Even the best of orphanages are just that... orphanages.  And I hope that we never forget that they are very real places that do exist.

----these three posts are about our personal experiences adopting special need's kiddos, Jude with bilateral club feetTess, a preemie with speech and multiple developmental delays and a lot of unknowns, and our newest daughter, Mimi, who was identified with developmental delays from an unknown cause.

----here is some info regarding the 147 million orphans in the world.  Nope, that's not a typo.  There really are 147 million orphans right now.

----If you are considering adoption or are in process, please read this post and this post about the reality of grief in children who are adopted.  This is hard stuff to read and learn about, but it can be very real to children that are adopted into even the most loving, educated, and wonderful families.  

----this is a recap of the day T&J were placed in our arms, and a video that recaps the day we received Mimi.

----this post was written when things were hard.  It's a confessional of sorts.

----you know all this adoption stuff that you read on blogs isn't exactly reality, right?  This is my opinion on on how blogs tend to sugar-coat adoption issues. 

----of course there is our whole trip to the absolutely magnificent country of VietNam, Tess and Jude's homeland.  And our China trip to be united with Mimi... although it's not quite finished yet.
----and in the end, this is not how it ends, or rather how much of the process ends, and we find victory in surrender.  

Above, our little ones,
Someone toss me the tissue box.  

Questions?  Shoot!


  1. This is beautiful. I would love to adopt from Vietnam but saw they are closed. :(

  2. i am glad that they have a home n such loving n supportive parents n siblings. i really respect all the hardwork you've done 4 their well being. great work fellow mom

  3. came accross your blog while serching recipes on pintrest. We are also an adoptive family. We adopted number 13 this week and #14in a couple of months. We adopt from foster care and have also adopted several special needs children. Great to hear about others on the same journey.

  4. I gave across your blog through Kim from Little by Little. My husband and I (well me) went through fertility treatments for years and found success with twins. We've talked about adopting so I am so happy to find your site. What I can't find in your posts I will certainly ask. thank you for such a wonderful and true account of your journey.

    1. Kerry- Ask away! Ask anything. I'm an open book. Knowledge is power. And CONGRATS on your babies!

  5. God Bless your beautiful family, it so nice to see such happy faces. I would like to adopt too, still at the early stages of saving money ( ) but slowly I will manage I'm from Malta Europe and at the moment singles can adopt from Russia and Cambodia but Vietnam will open soon for us. My dream is that by the time Vietnam opens I will be hopefully able to start the adoption process. Thanks for your blog make waiting more bearable.

  6. If I am not called to adopt, how else can I help?

    1. Support those who DO adopt... Learn the lingo. Throw a shower for a mom who is adopting. ---Sorry to say this one but... donate money. find a family that is adopting and donate to their adoption funds. Adoption costs about $30K per child. Most of the orphans in the world have so little so donate to specific orphanages. Formula. Food... Sponsor an orphan for school. Support organizations that help the older orphans learn a trade. ---Support organizations that work to preserve families so the need isn't as high. ---Become certified and provide foster care in your community. They always need foster care parents, but you can also become a short term provider as well. ---Become a certified foster care respite care provider. So foster moms and dad's can get away for a night, weekend or vacation. Gosh that's what comes to mind off the top of my head. That is a FABULOUS question by the way!

  7. Dear Nancy,
    I don't know how to describe my feeling now, but all I wanna say is what you are doing is awesome and fabulous. It touches my heart. I can see God's work in you and it helps me to strengthen my faith. Thanks a lot. Praying for your family and you. God blesses you all.

    1. Thank you, Jane. And I really mean it still when I say that WE are the lucky ones. My life is so amazing because God chose me to be these children's mama. I'm a better me and closer to Him through all of the trials. I hope we all pray about adoption and what we can do about this very real problem.

  8. Hey I really like this post but I know some can't or can't afford to adopt but you can still help the children please take a look at my campaign to help the kids in Vietnam and thanks for your time and consideration.

  9. We are looking into adopting a 13 year old with special needs from China . I keep having a pile of worries on my mind about what it means to add a third child to our family. Sometimes I feel that maybe having all these worries is a sign that I'm not ready, and if not, will I ever wake up without all these questions swirling in my head? Is thus all normal? I go back and forth between love/excitement and worry/ this emotional teeter totter here to stay?


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