except perhaps that this is what she looks like when she is well rested! Cute as a bug!
I won't show you what I look like these days. It ain't pretty.
To be honest, I never thought much about co-sleeping with our bio kiddos. Not that we had anything against it. It was circa 1993 when Sunny was born, before "back to sleep is best" was ever even heard of, and these things just weren't on the radar. And to be honest, I'm a sleep snob and have myself convinced that I need at least 7 solid hours each night to function like a reasonable human being, not to mention the required 300-thread count sheets, 2 extra-firm king-size pillows, the ceiling fan turned on low, and absolutely no digital clocks at all in the room. I told you I was a sleep snob. So even though I had somewhat subscribed to "attachment parenting" in part with all of our bio children, co-sleeping was never really a consideration.
Then Tess and Jude came home, and we were committed to do all we could to foster healthy attachments x2, so we tried sleeping with them in our bed. In the throws of re-entry with 2 toddlers, and one with full leg casts that continually struck me in the middle of the night...
in the head
and Tess's head
and Papa's head
co-sleeping lasted less than a week, and we gave up.
honestly in hind sight, I'm amazed it lasted that long.
Now Mimi is home, and we find ourselves giving co-sleeping another good ol' college try. I've conceded that my sleep won't be as sound. And I'm ok with that because honestly I'll do anything to help Mimi's attachment and mental security... especially in light of what happened last time. Plus I am getting some sleep too, but it's just not great sleep, and I'm absolutely positive that there must be some tricks and tips to make co-sleeping more successful.
Here are the hang-ups.
----Mimi thrashes about a bit through out the night. Right now I have a king pillow between us and this seems to help the repeatitively-being-kicked-in-the-face problem. But still she thrashes about in her sleep. Any tips for training her to sleep vertically with her head at the top of the bed? Or maybe that's asking too much?
----Currently, I sleep in the middle and Mimi is on the outside. I have a barricade built up on her side of the bed made from the back of a couple chairs pushed up against the bed, and many pillows rolled up and shoved in the cracks. Are there any bed rails out there that work with King beds? Or should she be in the middle of us instead?
----She often hits her sweet head against the head board. Although this doesn't even wake her, the sound of it does wake me often. I tried putting another pillow up there, but it doesn't stay up there and the ridiculous number of pillows on the bed is only reducing the surface area. Should I just not sorry about her hitting her head since it doesn't seem to bother her at all?
We have a toddler bed, right next to our bed, ready to go. And eventually this is where she will be. But I'd really like the timing of her transition to her own bed to be based on her attachment and security, rather than my own sleep snobbery. At the rate we're going, she'll be in her toddler bed sooner rather than later. But my gut says it's just not time yet. That she could definitely benefit from co-sleeping for a while longer.
The overall issue, I'm not sleeping all that great because I'm waking up no less than 7,903 times per night. Our king size bed seems incredibly small for the 3 of us. She seems to be sleeping great on the other hand.
So if you dare admit that you're a proponent of the family bed, and risk outing your hippy status, would you consider passing on some tricks and tips to a co-sleeping novice? Any advice would be very welcome.