One of my kiddos has been the target of some bullying. Because several of my children and several of their friends, and several of my friends read this blog, it's probably best to not say which one. If you're close to us, you probably know which one it is.
So we've known that there has been "issues" and "incidents" in the past. Like over the past few years. And we have chosen to deal with them at home. Discussing appropriate ways to deal with name calling. Who to tell. Discussing what a man of character really looks like. And until now, we've always felt we had a handle on it. But unbeknownst to us, things haven't really changed. We've given sweetie pie some methods to deal with bullying, but it's continued. And as a child ages, these things start to impact one's soul. We could narrow it down to a couple specific kiddos as the source of the problem, but to be honest, it sounds as if there is a bigger issue at hand. One where our sweetie finds themselves at the bottom of the pecking order.
Today's after-school homework session escalated into a very angry child. Too angry. Something told this mama that there was more at play than a forgotten assignment. Up to my elbows in pies and gravy and cranberry sauce, all the turkey-day prep was literally put aside so I could do some active parenting. We talked, I dug a bit, some of it came out. I dug about a bit more. Then the tears started to flow. Anger gave way to sadness. Depression. More details. It's so hard to say the names aloud, even to your mama. Even school "friends" getting in on the action.
In the end I heard, Thank you, Mama. Thank you for helping me with this school stuff. Ya, then my tears welled up. This child is simply amazing. Rising to a challenge. Finding their place in the world, with a heart for God and a spirit I truly envy.
So we're taking the next step. We're reaching out for help. Asking the school to step up. Maybe we should have done so sooner. I'll resort to one of my mantras. I do the best I can with what I have at the time. Now I know. Now I'll do better. For my child.
If anyone has any suggestions, I'll take 'em.
I have no dinner prepared tonight.
And the house is a disaster.
And company is coming tomorrow morning.
Some things are more important.
Bullying Part II